Matthew Teague is a journalist who’s traveled to distant corners of the world for tales. He coated C.I.A. operatives in Pakistan, famine in Somalia, double brokers in Northern Eire. However his best work could also be the essay he wrote in 2015 for Esquire journal, titled “The Friend.” Teague devoted some 6,000 phrases to the arduous two years he spent caring for his spouse, Nicole, who discovered she had terminal most cancers at age 34.
The essay informed the story of her deterioration and dying by way of the prism of their friendship with Dane Faucheux, a rudderless soul who came around the Teague household for Thanksgiving and ended up staying for 2 years to look after the couple and their two younger daughters. Apart from successful a Nationwide Journal Award, the essay related Teague to readers in methods his dramatic reporting from Afghanistan or Sri Lanka by no means did. They shared their very own painful tales with such overwhelming drive he was usually “struck dumb” by the response. To at the present time, he receives impassioned, heartbreaking letters.
Hollywood, too, rapidly got here calling.
And Teague, now 44, knew the drill. Two of his earlier items had been optioned by varied producers, however no films had been ever made. He vowed issues can be totally different this time.
What he didn’t account for was simply how merciless Hollywood might be when a film does come collectively, an expertise he’s nonetheless coming to phrases with.
First he tried his hand at writing the screenplay himself. When that didn’t work (“I spotted I’m too near this,” he mentioned) he signed on as an govt producer and labored intently with the author Brad Ingelsby (“The Way Back”) to craft a movie that each depicted the realities of dying and celebrated the life that got here earlier than.
Quickly a cadre of well-known actors (Casey Affleck, Dakota Johnson, Jason Segel) descended on Fairhope, Ala., to painting the Teagues and Faucheux. Gabriela Cowperthwaite directed the actors in scenes shot within the hospital the place Nicole was handled and in a house simply three doorways down from the Teague residence. (The household nonetheless lives in the identical home. Teague has remarried and now additionally has a 3-month-old son named Wilder.)
Toggling between previous and current, the script jumps headfirst into each the nastiness of most cancers and the banalities of married life, presenting a portrait of a household that’s each utterly recognizable and terrifyingly distinctive. Younger ladies are usually not speculated to die of most cancers of their house whereas their young children are within the subsequent room.
However fueled each by the profound response to his essay and by his profession as a journalist, Teague was wedded to authenticity.
“The gist of it’s I needed my spouse’s legacy and reminiscence to be one among huge respect. I didn’t wish to mishandle it,” he mentioned. “And I’ve a mission to inform the reality about that point and every part that got here from it.”
There are elements of Teague’s unique essay that made it immediately onto the display screen: the physician’s phrases when he revealed Nicole’s prognosis (“It’s in every single place. Like someone dipped a paintbrush in most cancers and flicked it round her stomach”), the friendship between Teague and Faucheux, and Nicole’s dying needs (leaping in a downtown fountain with all her household and buddies, changing into the grand marshal in her city’s Mardi Gras parade). “What her life lacked in size, it made up for in top,” Teague wrote in Esquire.
The extra visceral elements that, partly, made the essay so memorable had been omitted: particularly Teague’s position within the grotesque artwork of wound-packing and the bodily horrors that accompanied it.
“There are issues that I can write about in print, and folks can soak up and discover to be trustworthy,” he mentioned. “But, for those who see it onscreen, individuals are going to throw up their popcorn and run from the theater.”
But, regardless of his rigorously calibrated work, success in Hollywood is rarely a assure.
The 2019 Toronto Movie Pageant accepted the movie and gave it a coveted opening-weekend slot.
Seated contained in the Princess of Wales Theater, Teague was a flurry of nerves, held collectively solely by sheer will and the assistance of a pal and fellow journalist, Tom Junod, who was additionally the topic of a Hollywood film, “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood,” about his unlikely relationship with Fred Rogers.
“It stunned me how emotional I felt watching it,” Teague recalled. “However what actually took me aback was how emotional the viewers was. There have been lots of people feeling numerous issues. So I felt like I had achieved proper by Nicole.”
The actress Kristen Stewart was seated behind him, and listening to her sniffle was extra affirmation every part was going to be OK. There have been audible sobs from the viewers, a standing ovation and a visit to the stage, the place the solid answered an earnest flurry of questions. “There was nothing however love from that viewers,” Teague mentioned.
However when he returned to his resort room later that evening, early evaluations from the commerce publications landed like a intestine punch. The Hollywood Reporter known as it “out of touch with the very feelings it desperately tries to evoke.” Selection took issue with turning his “devastating essay” into an “inspirational group hug.” In that overview, the critic Peter Debruge recommended the actors’ performances however wrote, “A lot of the unpleasantness has been scrubbed from the image, till what stays is exactly the form of dishonest, sanitized no-help-to-anyone TV-movie model of dying that impressed Teague to set the report straight within the first place.”
As we speak Teague nonetheless bristles at this criticism. Regardless of spending years in newsrooms and understanding the position of critics, this specific critique rings as unfair.
“I had simply come from a room full of people that had by no means learn the essay, didn’t know something concerning the essay and simply took the film by itself phrases and located it to be very transferring,” he mentioned. “So to have my very own story used to beat up my very own story was actually painful.”
Cowperthwaite felt the wrath too, saying the early evaluations “simply took the wind out of me.” However the director, who has made 4 movies together with the BAFTA-nominated documentary “Blackfish,” has had extra expertise dealing with criticism. “It’s simply one of many suck-it-up truths behind our business,” she mentioned. “It by no means doesn’t damage, however I believe the longer you’re on this artistic world you study to metabolize the ache extra rapidly.”
For Teague, the critiques felt unfair, however extra necessary he was fearful concerning the impact they’d have on the destiny of the movie. Motion pictures like “The Buddy” enter festivals with the hopes of securing a hefty distribution deal, and the early commerce evaluations carry outsize import when studios and streamers are figuring out what to purchase. Would the movie discover a house with preliminary vital response so tepid?
“I used to be in a panic as a result of I didn’t know what was going to occur to this factor that’s so valuable to me,” Teague mentioned. “Are we sunk? Are individuals going to get an opportunity to see it?”
Opinions did enhance. In Self-importance Truthful, Katey Wealthy wrote that the movie “finds a extra considerate approach by way of the type of story that always feels rote onscreen, no matter how devastating it may be in actual life.” Its Rotten Tomatoes score is now hovering round 80 p.c contemporary. And the producer-financier Teddy Schwarzman mentioned the movie left the pageant with 4 provides, although an official deal wasn’t introduced till January.
Delayed due to the pandemic, the movie, now titled “Our Friend,” will now debut Friday in theaters and on demand.
Teague is utilizing the expertise as a development alternative in his profession as a journalist. “The glare of public criticism has helped me be extra conscious of how scary and helpless a narrative topic can really feel,” he mentioned in a follow-up e-mail. “It’s simple to overlook that, even for a author who prizes empathy. Generally even a short story — or a rapidly written overview — can break somebody’s coronary heart for an extended, very long time.”
But, he hasn’t given up on Hollywood, both. The author lately returned to the screenwriting recreation and tailored his 2003 GQ article concerning the over-the-top warfare video games in North Carolina right into a mini-series known as “Pineland” that’s now being shopped round.
“It’s not a mild business,” he mentioned. “Nevertheless it has nothing on journalism — my past love — for onerous knocks.”